Thursday, September 25, 2008

BDSM Checklist

The always-thinking Erotic Bohemian has started putting up her standard checklist up on her blog in series, with a call to other bloggers to talk about their own experiences with the activities within. Being that I love a good introspection, of course I took the bait.

Here goes:

  • An activity (or activities) that was a fun experience for you. What did you enjoy or what was an especially pleasurable activity? If you've never attempted any on the list, which do you think you'd enjoy if you had to choose one and why?
  • What, if any, of the activities below pushes a limit for you? Have you attempted it?
  • What, if any, of the below items was a good learning experience for you?

I'm kind of altering the original idea and going through each activity. Some I like, some aren't so comfy, and some I've never tried. And for those of you that haven't been reading my blog and don't know me, I'm quite the switch, which is why I'm answering on both the top and bottom angles. ;)

The Checklist: Part I

Abrasion
I like sensations of many many kinds. If I'm understanding this right, it's abrasive sensation, sandpaper, etc? If that's the case, I'm up for trying it. ;)

Age Play
It's not my thing. I know people that are into it, but it's not something I would be into myself.

Anal Fisting
Receiving end? Oh no. Uh-uh. Giving end? If the other person was really into it (and I knew a little more about doing it safely), I'd consider it. It wouldn't be a suggestion I'd bring up personally (Hey, I know what we can do that's fun!!!). ;)

Anal Sex
Yup. When done properly, it's quite fun. Always remember: LUBE IS YOUR FRIEND.

Animal Roles
This one's kind of an odd one for me. I know it's referring to pony/puppy/kitty play, but I have a rather strong animal side to me, and it can show up during sexual play. It's not really a kink, just a personality thing.

Ass Worship / Analingus
Not something I've been on either end of. With proper safety precautions, it wouldn't be out of the picture either way.

Bathroom Use Control
Not something I'd find fun on either end.

Beating (Soft)
Beating (Hard)
As in rough body play? On the giving end: I'm learning a little bit about this, coincidentally. CK likes it, and I want to be able to do it safely. As the recipient: Not sure I'd dig it, but it's not something I've tried (other than playful wrestling with friends). Jury's out on that one.

Behavior Modification
I'm not interested so far in long-term D/s relationships, and this would definitely have to be along that line. It's interesting to hear about, however.

Begging
Depends on the individual, the setting, and the situation.

Being Bitten
Oh yeah. ;) I think we all know I like this one. Biting or being bitten, actually.

Belts
Haven't tried, either end. I'd be willing to.

Blindfolds
I like the idea of someone else in one; I find it aesthetically pleasant and fun from a top's point of view. As for myself, I'm not sure if I'd like it or not. I'd like to try wearing one at some point. The bit gag was an interesting headspace for me, and I wouldn't be surprised if a blindfold did something similar.

Body Writing
From a fun body art kind of perspective, could be interesting.

Body Worship With Tongue
I like to lick. ;) I like to be licked. That one's pretty simple. :)

Bondage (Light)
Bondage (Heavy)
I've played with light bondage so far and have enjoyed it immensely, both being the one bound and the one doing the binding. ;) Haven't tried heavy bondage yet, but am very willing.

Bondage (Public, Under Clothing)
The public stuff isn't my thing. I don't think I'd get a kick out of this one...

Boot Worship
Clothing is nice, but it's not a fetish to me. It's not anywhere near a limit or anything, but not something I'd seek out.

Branding (Permanent)
I rarely say never, but this one's close. There'd have to be a really good reason.

Breath Control / Asphyxiation
This is currently a limit for me. I can deal with having light pressure on my throat, but that's where the line is. And I also won't control someone else's breathing; it's too dangerous and I'm too new at all this.

Cages
I think it'd be fun to have someone on 'display', as it were. As for myself, I'm not one to like being on display myself. I do have to admit, though, a part of me does find the idea intriguing. I'm not sure if I'd enjoy it, but it would be an interesting experience.

Caning
Haven't tried it, but I really want to. Pretty welts. ;)

Castration Fantasy
As a mindfuck during a scene, it might be interesting...

Catheterization
Nope. I've been in too many hospitals and dealt with too much illness in others for this to be appealing to me.

Cattle Prod
That'd be fun to play with. *grin*

Cigarette / Cigar Smoke
Nope. Don't find it sexy in the least.

Chains
I enjoy the aesthetics of chains; they're visually, aurally, and tactilely appealing.

Choking
Discussed up there in breath play. *points up*

Clothespins (What body parts? )
Very curious about playing with clothespins. I picked some up during one of my 'pervertibles' trips to the dollar store, but haven't had the opportunity to use 'em yet. And what body parts? I really don't know, to be honest. I'm open to experimentation.

Clothing Specified
not sure what this one means?

Collars
Love the way they look on others, love the way they feel on me.

Competitions (With Other Subs)
This would be something I'd enjoy watching. ;)

Confinement (Long Or Short Term)
Confinement by itself? Not so much.

Crawling On Hands & Knees
This would have to be in context. I'm not into humiliation myself, and this resonates like that for me. If I was topping and my playmate was into it, that's another thing altogether.

Crossdressing
Pleasant to watch; not really a personal kink of mine, but I can appreciate the appeal of it for others.

Cuckoldry
I'm thinking this one's an N/A for me. :)

Cum Eating (yours)
Cum Eating (others)
Other than the spelling of 'cum' squicking me (don't know why. 'come' is fine, but 'cum' grates. :)), I don't have a problem with it in the context of giving oral sex, at least. Now, basic safety makes this one a no-no with casual partners.

Cuffs
Love 'em, both on myself and others.

Cum tasting, consumption (yours/others)
Didn't we just do this one? *points up*

Cunnilingus
I'm a fan. ;)

Cutting

I'm very curious about cuttings; I'm not sure how I'd enjoy being on the recieving end, but I think I'd dig it. As for being the one doing the cutting, I think I'd be too tempted to taste, which ain't healthy. ;)


Now, keep in mind: if I said I wasn't into your particular kink, please don't take it as an insult! My opinions are just that, and your mileage may vary. :)

If anybody has any questions about my answers or wants me to clarify, speak up! I'm listening. :)

2 comments:

PaganKinktress said...

How very cool to get further insights into what makes you tick, PP! Thank you for being so brave in sharing like this. I like the way you chose to answer this meme; I think it worked out perfectly.

Now, as for the redundant cum eating/cum tasting item...I *think* when I originally put the checklist together, I was looking to distinguish between actual cum consumption (i.e. swallowing or ingesting) and just taking a 'little taste'. Like for example, a submissive male might be asked to mix up a cum-cocktail, adding his fluids to a glass and perhaps mixing it up with another beverage. Tasting might have included licking a bit off of a hand. So yeah, in my clearly perverted mind, it made sense to me at the time to list those separately!

You're such a genuine and lovely person, I have to say. I really enjoy getting to know you. And I can't wait to see how you'll answer the "D-G" portion of the checklist when I get that posted! ;)

XOXO

PantheraPardus said...

Talking about my views on various kinks doesn't feel brave to me. Pictures...those are brave. ;)

Going through the list is interesting to me, too, actually; it's helping me kind of get a baseline of my current viewpoints. Those can change, and some already have.

Can't wait for the next segment. ;)