Thursday, November 6, 2008

Blog Moved: now tweaking

Okay, guys, the blog is moved to http://www.ramblingnewbie.com. All new posts are going to go up there, so change your subscriptions accordingly. :)

It'll be new, improved, and with now fewer warning screens! Meaning, of course, none.

If there are any questions or concerns, feel free to comment.

Thursday, October 30, 2008

Samhain HNT.

Inspired by VanillaImpaired.

HNT is late this time, for one reason. Halloween has always been my favorite holiday, when I get to be someone else for a while. Once I became pagan (twenty years ago? really?), it began to have a different sort of meaning to me. 

So today, like VanImp, I'll be drinking some wine and saying some words to old friends no longer here. This year, for a change, I'm going to celebrate who I'm becoming rather than pretending I'm something or someone I'm not. 

To change. 


And you'll notice toward the bottom my darling boy-cat charging up his lasers for the occasion.

Sunday, October 26, 2008

Blog Moving!

Due to various and sundry reasons, I've decided to take the plunge and get a domain for the blog.

This site will remain up for at least a good while as I get things settled over there and get things going.   The new URL will be http://www.ramblingnewbie.com, and I think it'll be worth it.  To see a preview, check out http://pantherapardus.wordpress.com

Any questions, throw 'em at me. :)

Friday, October 24, 2008

Quickie Post

Just wanted to let you guys know I'm still around, and I'll be doing at least a couple of posts in the next couple of days.  Family issues are calming down and will hopefully be back to normal in a month or so. 

Posts upcoming: Humor and fun in BDSM. A review of the Bandito (thanks, Essin' Em!). Possibilities for moving the blog. A little introspection (yes, again, introspection). More pervertibles. More DIYs and How-tos.

So look forward to those, and more.  In the next few weeks, I'll also be starting to review products for Babeland.com, which is a supercool thing. If you'll look on the right of this page, you'll notice a Babeland graphic. Click on that if you decide to shop, kay? ;)

More later.

Thursday, October 23, 2008

Gaming Night HNT!

So my whole gaming group is kinky.

Tonight, we played for the first time in a few weeks (d20 Modern X-Files homebrewed game). We jokingly threatened CK ("No, don't throw me in that there briar patch!") with being tied up after the game.

Without going into too much detail--because really, I'm simply too tired for a full-blown post--here, ladies and gentlemen, is your HNT for this week. Not me this time, mind you. ;)

Enjoy!

Tuesday, October 21, 2008

Oh Noes! I've been tagged!

The Butterfly Temptress tagged me with a meme!


The Rules-
* Link to your tagger and list these rules on your blog.
* Share 7 facts about yourself on your blog - some random, some weird.
* Tag 7 people at the end of your post by leaving their names as well as links to their blog.
* Let them know they have been tagged by leaving a comment on their blog.

Step one: check.

Step two:

  • I roast coffee, brew beer, and can skin and butcher my own meat.
  • I get mildly obsessive about learning how things work.
  • My college work was in psych and criminal justice.
  • I've been trying to get the Playgirl issue with Peter Steele (from Type O Negative) for about ten years now; I've offered upwards of fifty bucks, but nobody I know will part with it.
  • I love durian (It's a fruit. Look it up. You'll understand why it's worth mentioning).
  • I've seen Tom Jones live in concert. And y'know what? He was pretty damn cool. So was Johnny Mathis.
  • I have a small collection of bladed weapons that I'm always interested in expanding.
Step 3: This one's tough, cause damn near everybody's been tagged already...but here goes.

Thursday's Child: Because she's just so much fun.
Narration by D: Because he doesn't write enough!
Mina and Sylvanus: Because I miss them on Twitter.
Alpine Subdreams: Because she posts pretty pictures. I still love the feathers!
Ellie: Because I'm so going to meet her one of these days.
VanImp: Simply because she's awesome.
Curvaceous Dee: Because she inspired me to start this blog and I love her for it. ;)

Step 4: Profit! Err..comment! I'll get right on that (eventually). ;) Forgive me if your comment doesn't show up for a day or two...

Monday, October 20, 2008

Many Colors of Rope

Pretty pretty colors. :)

Some of these you've seen pictures of before, but here they are all together.
The colors unfortunately don't come through as well as I'd like, but I'm working with a camera phone. Them's the breaks until I get a decent camera.

The one at the top was the length I dyed last night: 30 feet of 6mm hemp. I used Scarlet 5 Rit brand dye, the liquid form. I followed the instructions to a point, though I didn't stir constantly (it's rope, not fabric), and I did let it simmer longer than recommended because I was *ahem* testing a new acquisition for review and got distracted. I found it easy to use (just dump in the water, heat, and go), but it seemed to take longer to rinse to the point of clear water than other methods. That may be because of the longer simmer time, but we'll see. The color was very true to the label and very even. I also dyed two white cotton shop towels to match. I figure I'll throw 'em in my toybag for various and sundry needs. ;)

The second one is also 30 feet of 6mm hemp. The dye used for this experiment was Purple 15 Rit brand dye, powder form. The instructions said to add a little detergent to the dyebath and a cup of salt, which the liquid form did not. I followed the directions on this batch almost exactly, and the color came out beautifully rich and even. It was somewhat darker than the package, but that's what I was going for. It rinsed clear faster than the liquid type. I dyed two matching shop towels for this color as well. Gorgeously rich purple.

The third is another 30 feet of 6mm hemp. I used Kool-Aid for this one, three packs of Tropical Punch and one of Grape. The process is described in a little more detail a bit farther down in this entry, when I talk about my first experiments with it. The color isn't as rich as I'd like, and didn't seem to penetrate perfectly. I did only leave it on the stove for about half an hour, so perhaps longer time is needed.

The fourth is yet another 30 feet of 6mm hemp. This is the rope in its natural state, and I put it in the picture so you can see the base color for the previous three experiments. :)

The fifth and sixth in the picture are each 30 foot lenghts of an 8mm nylon-poly blend. To dye them, something I've mentioned before: Kool-Aid. The top one was Grape and the bottom Black Cherry. I also have a 30 foot length of Tropical Punch, not shown. ;) I saw several websites dealing with the idea, and all were different. The one I stuck with had some good visuals. Now, the page said to use one package per ounce; that's overkill, people! Experiment with it, but you don't need nearly that much. Now, you'll notice that it's not a uniform color. That was unexpected, but not a bad thing at all. Basically, one type of fiber took the dye and the other didn't. The resulting effect is very pretty, almost candy-like. If I could figure out which fiber took the dye, and then find another type of dye for the other fiber? That'd be fun. ;) Any suggestions are welcome.

The seventh is 50 feet of 10mm nylon-poly blend. I used Red Rit brand dye (I don't recall the number), powder version. I was actually disappointed in this dyejob. I followed the Two Knotty Boys' instructions to the letter, down to the exact brand and length of rope. I'm thinking either I completely missed something in the video I found, or there's something odd about my water chemistry. Either way, instead of rich, even color I got an odd variegated pattern. Now, after the fact, I kinda like it. It looks vaguely like serpentine scales (only vaguely, but the impression is there).

The eighth experiment was the first I did, actually. It's about five feet of approximately 6mm nylon-poly, dyed with super-strong tea (English Breakfast, to be precise, but any black tea will do). Brew it hella strong, strain out the leaves, then let the material simmer in the pot for a while. The color on the white rope makes it look somewhat like hemp at a glance; on fabrics like linen it makes it look antique.


To sum up: All of these experiments worked to a degree. For the truest, deepest colors, Rit seems to be the way to go. The Kool-Aid dyed ropes would be suitable to use in the mouth (bit gags and such; thank you again, Two Knotty Boys). The Rit-dyed rope I would be uncomfortable using like that unless it's been washed several times and I was sure of the colorfastness.

All of these methods were similar in ease of use and ease of cleanup, the very simplest was the liquid Rit, which called for no additives. Colorfastness has yet to be truly determined, because that's going to take time, use, and washings. The Black Cherry rope has been used and washed once and kept its color perfectly. As for color transfer to the skin, I think it passed the test (FM? Chime in. Did ya end up with any Kool-Aid marks in unfortunate spots? ;)).

A caveat to anyone that I practice on: I apologize if you end up with dyemarks. ;) I'll keep soap on hand for cleanup.

As always, if anyone has any suggestions or comments, I love hearing them!

Sunday, October 19, 2008

I Can Has Toys?

So I won a contest! 

Essin' Em ran a contest on her blog Sexuality Happens, and the prize was the Bandito.  My limerick squeaked out a win (not sure how; there were some really good ones submitted. Check them out).  Also, check out the contest she's throwing for her two year blogiversary. It looks like a hoot and I can't wait to see the results. 

Yeah, so I'll soon have a new toy. I've been wanting one anyway, and this one looks like it's fun and versatile. ;)  It'll be my first silicone toy as well, and I'm looking forward to it.  Fun Factory has a good reputation, from what I understand.  And of course, in good blogger fashion, I'm just gonna have to share my opinions when I get a chance to try it out. *grin*  

In other news, I've changed my mind on the dyeing of the hemp rope. I'm leaving one 30' length its natural color and dyeing the other three lengths with three different methods. When I'm done, I'll let you know how each method worked. That post should be up by Monday if all goes well. 

Again, thank you all for your patience during the past couple of weeks.  Normal posting should be back on track soon.

Saturday, October 18, 2008

just a quickie

Hey there, this is just a quick post to let you all know that I'm still around and that I haven't forgotten about you.

I've had kind of a rough week on the family health front, so I haven't been in much of a headspace to post. However, things are starting to look up, so I'm going to be making myself get back into my routines again.

I have several posts planned, and there will be a review coming up at some point...so stay tuned!!

(Forgive any oddness about this post; I'm writing it in a restaurant on lunch break)

Thursday, October 9, 2008

No Ass Shot This Week HNT!

So instead of ass, there will be boobies. 

This is a pleather bustier I got from Torrid a few years back. I dig it. ;) 

This shot is far less careful than most shots I've done so far for HNT. Instead of being focused on a small area, it shows stretchmarks and belly and arms and such...but it also shows boobies. Therefore...all is well. 

Also featured in this picture are some now-greenish remainders of some lovely bite-bruises on the soft curve of one breast and on my belly just beneath the bustier.  I debated showing those because I wasn't sure how most HNT viewers would react...then I really thought about it. My conclusion? If they don't like it, there's plenty more bare flesh out there to look at. I'm doing this for me, not for them...and I enjoy my bruises. ;)

As for the pictures hinted at in the post from Sunday, you'll just have to wait. I don't have my paws on 'em yet. But soon...

Wednesday, October 8, 2008

Pervertibles, First Installment!

I'd like to make this a semi-regular installment on this blog. We'll see how it goes.

The word 'pervertible' is not a word I coined, but my personal definition of it is this: something that is marketed as a mundane item that can be used in a decidedly different, and kinky, way.

I consider it different from DIY. Pervertibles are things that are usable as they are, or with very minor alterations. The DIY stuff consists of toys made from other things, if you get the distinction.

This first installment will consist of things I've already picked up, where I got the item and approximate pricing. The ones I've used I'll review. ;) 

1. Dish Brush. Dollar Tree. $1.

This worked really well. The wide head full of stiff bristles got nice squirming, and the little bitty area of even stiffer scrubbing bristles on the backside (when I wrote this, I meant backside of the brush, but backside of the victim works in this context too. :)) got even more. This experiment was a success.

2. Mini-Duster. Dollar Tree. $1.

I figured this for a tickling kind of toy, but it wasn't as effective as I'd hoped. I may go for a second test run of it with a different bottom (and different body parts). 

3. Flipper. Dollar Tree. $1. 

This was a fun one. *grin* It's hard plastic, but just very slightly flexible. It gets a nice snap on various body parts. This was a very good success. 

4. Wooden 'paddle'. Craft store. < $1.

This thing was even labeled 'paddle'! Very nice, very stingy, completely nondescript. Another success.

5. Various and sundry clothespins, pegs, and clamps. Dollar Tree. $1 each pack. (cat not included)

Wow, these worked well. I'd never played with these guys before Saturday night (either on myself or others). I used the metal ones on DB for just a few minutes (he hadn't used any quite that tight before). When they did finally come off and the blood started coming back...that was fun to watch. *grin* Now, the wooden ones: CK and I were doing a little playing last night(not a full-on scene, just a little fun) and he dragged 'em out. All I have to say is: wooooow. Best buck I ever spent. My nipples are still sore and supersensitive. I think I may coat the bitey end of a few of the wooden ones in tool dip for easier cleaning (in case I end up using 'em somewhere other than nipples. *grin*). Big success!

6. Loofah glove. Dollar Tree. $1.

Mildly scratchy surface. I haven't used this one yet, but I think it'll be interesting when I do.

7. Handled cutting board. Old Pottery (inexpensive kitchen/decorative stuff). $1.99.  

This is going to be a very effective paddle, I think. *grins evilly* I find myself walking through dollar stores, craft stores and kitchen stores smacking various things as subtly as possible against my thigh to test its pervertibility quotient. ;) This was my latest treasure.

Like I said, I hope to make this at least a semi-regular thing. I'll post websites as I find them. If any of you have any ideas or interesting sites, send 'em my way! There's an email link below. Pictures are always welcome, and I'll include any submissions in a future installment, credited to the submitter. :)

Tuesday, October 7, 2008

Conditioning Rope

(edited because I completely forgot to reference and link to the company I purchased the rope from as I meant to!)

The hunt for rope began at Home Depot. 


I picked up a package of a nylon/polyester solid-braid blend and made floggers out of it. This began my fascination with the stuff. After that, I picked up another pack of 8mm nylon/poly, this one more of a twisted rope. I cut this into thirty-foot lengths, and this was my first set of bondage rope (the set I dyed with kool-aid, if you've been taking notes). I also picked up some ten-millimeter stock. I used this to make a rather heavy flogger that's quite nice. 

In the interim, I bought a batch of manila and another of sisal. The manila simply isn't going to get where I want it to be, therefore I gave up. As for the sisal, I researched it and realized it really wasn't going to suit my needs before I wasted any time trying to condition it.

So I finally got my hemp rope in.  It's from a company called Rawganique out of Canada.



After getting good information from Ellie Lumpesse, I started by singeing the rope to remove any sharp or long fibers.  I had a pot of water on hand in case of incident. The water attracted a certain curious pussycat.
After that, I plopped it into the pot to let it boil. It boiled for six long, stinky hours. I then dumped it out and hung it to dry.



This morning, I stretched it. My tools? Gloved hands and my feet. 

After the stretching came more singeing, then I oiled it with scented mineral oil. I'm not sure how much oil is actually called for, but I'm going to be working the rope more and adding more oil. It's very very lovely, and I have four thirty-foot lengths of it.

I also have a spare three feet that I'll be using for several dyeing experiments. This first batch is staying its natural color, however.


Conclusion: While I'm not completely done conditioning this rope, I will say it was worth the time. I don't know if it's going to be something I do often, or learn to do with any efficiency, but I've been enjoying this. I now understand the work that Twisted Monk puts into his stock, and I've heard his stuff is absolutely amazing. 

By the way, check out my bitchin' sailor's whipping:

It looks so much better than the electrical tape I did have on the ends of all my rope before. Oh, and the blurry black thing? Not the monster from Lost. That's a cat trying to get his catfoot into frame while mommy's shooting pictures.


There's something about making your own tools. You're putting your own time and sweat into it, and you're putting something of yourself into it. There's a connection there. My rope floggers aren't the prettiest critters, but I know the feel of them. The vampire glove I made (which I gifted to DB) was downright ugly...but it got the job done, and I knew it. I urge everyone to make at least one toy for your bag. ;) See if you don't enjoy it.

Tomorrow: Pervertibles!!

Sunday, October 5, 2008

Impromptu Playparty! (part one)

The playparty I went to in August was put on by a group in a city a few hours away from where I live. One of the young men that was there (we'll call him DB) that evening came down to visit SC and FM, and it was decided that there would be an impromptu play night. 

There's a gentleman here in town that has a wonderful dungeon setup in his home, and he graciously allowed us use of it.  When we got there, there were three male subs, SC, and me.  I was a little apprehensive, because I'd only played in public once before, and I have so far been a bit of a lightweight when topping (publicly or privately). I've been mildly worried that I wasn't cut out for it...

Well, I'm no longer worried. I think I held my own relatively well. *grin* I used some of my own toys and some of SC's as well, starting with my homemade vampire glove...this seems to be a great starting toy. It sensitized the hell out of DB's skin, which made everything else ever so much fun.  Between SC and myself, DB got topped for about four hours. The boy's a tank. He got flogged, whipped (I got to use a dragon's tongue for the first time), scratched, bitten, clamped (the metal clips from the dollar store run got some use), caned, and spanked...and had no complaints. 

Remember my blog post about the first play party, and how I said I really wanted an evil stick? Well, I got to use one, and I reaaally want one now.  Other toys I saw that I lust after: stocks, a bondage chair with metal shackles, and a paddle with the word 'slut' written in reverse on the face. Hit somebody just right, and the word imprints itself on the body part whacked. More about that on HNT. ;)

I also got to play with my newfound rope addiction, making cuffs and a body harness for FM, who kept laughing and saying it was scary how fast I was picking things up. CK got there a little later, but wasn't really in the right headspace to actually play.  I think he still had fun watching for the rest of the evening after we shackled him into the chair. ;)

On a silly note, while DB was shackled and I was beating the hell out of him, I leaned over his shoulder, bit him, and said "Cake or death?".  He started laughing and responded properly: "Cake, please!"  Me: "Well, we're out of cake!" Him: "So my choice is 'or death'?". You have to love an Eddie Izzard fan, and throughout the evening the references kept coming. *grin*


For your visual pleasure, an ass ravaged by the evil stick (posted with DB's permission): 

And yeah, the evil stick stings...a lot. More about that on HNT as well. ;)

The night was great fun. Hopefully there'll be more fun in the future. 

BDSM checklist: brought to you by the letter D.

And now for the second installment of the Erotic Bohemian's BDSM checklist meme.

From the list below, select the activities you have partaken in and feel comfortable sharing your experiences on. In your blog, tell about:
An activity (or activities) that was a fun experience for you. What did you enjoy or what was an especially pleasurable activity? If you've never attempted any on the list, which do you think you'd enjoy if you had to choose one and why?
What, if any, of the activities below pushes a limit for you? Have you attempted it?
What, if any, of the below items was a good learning experience for you?

And here are the "D's"....
Daily Diary/Reporting

For introspective purposes, it's not a bad plan. I tend to do my introspection on my blog, however, though it may not be daily.  As for assigning this for someone else...it would really depend on the person. 


Daily mantra

For me, I don't know how effective this  would actually be.  A daily mantra seems like it would be a very personal thing to me, rather than something assigned.


Diet Control

I'm more one for a top/bottom dynamic than a D/s one in my personal world; for a D/s couple this would be an interesting way to help cement that power exhange. 


Diapers 

Not my thing, really. We discussed the age play thing in the first part of the meme.


Dildo (For Female Pleasure)

Ohyeah. I keep seeing new and interesting shapes I want. I'm becoming a sex toy snob, I think...


Dildo (For Male Pleasure)

I haven't yet been intimate with a male that was willing to experiment with that sort of experience...I do have to admit the idea is intriguing.


Domestic Service

For a short amount of time, this would be a pleasant diversion (speaking from the Domme side of the equation).  On the sub side of things, it's not something I've really considered. Depending on the dynamic with the person, I might consider it for a short period just for the experience. 

The Ds turned out to be a short section, but there it is. More later, when the Es are posted. ;)

Thursday, October 2, 2008

Things Ain't Always What They Seem HNT

So I drank some wine during the debate, and probably ended up drinking too much. Since I hadn't put up my HNT so far, I decided to go ahead and go for it.

I have to admit, I had to really screw up my courage for this one. I thought, you know, eventually this is something I was planning on sharing on my blog, and might as well get it out of the way.

This week, even though my entry's a little late, is a first for me on this blog.

It had to happen eventually: A pussy shot.

You'll have to forgive me, it's a little hairy right now.
I'm a bad person. *snicker* HHNT. :)

Tuesday, September 30, 2008

It seemed an interesting idea...

And as I've said before, I'm a sucker for introspection.

Stolen from The Sweltering Celt: TMI Tuesday! I don't know if this is something I'll do every week, but I liked this one. Therefore, here we go:

1. What do you feel is the difference between sexy and erotic?

Erotic is more sensual, Sexy is more primal. The two can cross over quite often, but not always. Sexy is more out-there, obvious, while Erotic hints and teases.

2. Do you believe there is one right person (i.e. soul mate) for you out there in the world, or that there can be many different potential mates that you could live blissfully with?

I'm not one for the 'soulmate' idea personally. I think delicately handled poly relationships are very doable, and can make for very happy people. To limit oneself to one partner because of the 'one right person' concept can potentially shut someone out of your life that could truly enrich your existance.

3. Do you need to hear “I love you” or similar words on a regular basis from your partner?

I don't necessarily need to hear 'I love you'; but I do occasionally need assurances that I'm wanted. A compliment out of the blue, a sensual kiss that takes me by surprise, any number of little things to make me feel that my partner actually gets something out of having me around. ;)

4. What feeling do you have the most difficulty expressing?

Tough call. I'm going to settle on Desire (not sure if it counts as a 'feeling' exactly, but there it is). Desire: It's difficult (read: impossible) for me to admit to someone that I'm interested in them as more than a friend unless they've already expressed interest in me. Rejection is extremely hard for me to take. It's something I'm working on, and will continue to. (Okay, this question was actually tough for me to answer and not edit out. I'm going to leave it, at least for now. I may puss out later. ;))

5. What is worse - physical, mental or cyber cheating?

Another difficult question, as the definition of cheating really depends on the people in question. Once the boundaries are set, then my choice for most betraying is physical cheating. To me, cheating is dishonesty. If I'm in a committed relationship, and my partner wants to sleep with someone else, they can tell me. We'll discuss it. If we agree it's not a bad idea, then cool! Be careful, be safe, and give me details when you get home. ;) If you simply go behind my back, or lie to me about it? Yeah, I'm pissed.

If it's cybering, all it is is interactive porn in my opinion. As long as it's not affecting the relationship, it's nothing to worry about. mental/emotional cheating is still in the thought-fantasy stages. It's a little closer to the worry point, but can spawn communication about any problems that may be in the relationship. Once it's physical, it's real, and is much more difficult to return from. In my opinion, honesty and communication are always the keys to any relationship.

Bonus (as in optional): The Kinsey scale attempts to describe a person’s sexual history or episodes of their sexual activity at a given time. It uses a scale from 0, meaning exclusively heterosexual, to 6, meaning exclusively homosexual. Where are you - TODAY - on the scale?

This actually does vary day by day (the tendency, not in terms of actual episodes). Today? I'm probably a 2. I'm still finding females attractive, but I'm really craving sex with a male right now. Ask me tomorrow, you may get another number. ;)



This was actually kind of tough. Good on ya, Sweltering Celt.

Sunday, September 28, 2008

This Post Made Me Smile

This post, from the Writing Dirty blog, genuinely made me smile, and sigh wistfully. His work is always good, but this particular post just struck a chord. Well done. :)

Thursday, September 25, 2008

Soft and Sweet: HNT and Bonus

First, the soft.

I like textures. I love petting things (and people). I like most textures, but soft things are a particular pleasure. I go into a fabric store and it's like a petting zoo for me. And every once in a while I come across something I can't resist...

I petted a bolt of fake fur at the fabric store last time I was there and couldn't move away from it; I just kept petting it. I finally ended up buying a yard of it. Part of has gone to making a soft mitt to go in my toybag; another part is going to be a mitt for SC. The rest...well, the rest I just pet. :) That or curl up under it so I can feel it on my skin. I really like textures.
*grin* Sprawled out on the sofa, wrapped in soft fur; I feel all 'Slave Chicks of Gor' here.

And now for the bonus.

The sweet: People seemed to get a kick out of the M&Ms in the cleavage shot, so I thought I'd go for another body part and another candy.

So life savers on the hip it became!

...what, you didn't think the sweet referred to me, did you? *snicker*

HHNT, y'all. ;)

BDSM Checklist

The always-thinking Erotic Bohemian has started putting up her standard checklist up on her blog in series, with a call to other bloggers to talk about their own experiences with the activities within. Being that I love a good introspection, of course I took the bait.

Here goes:

  • An activity (or activities) that was a fun experience for you. What did you enjoy or what was an especially pleasurable activity? If you've never attempted any on the list, which do you think you'd enjoy if you had to choose one and why?
  • What, if any, of the activities below pushes a limit for you? Have you attempted it?
  • What, if any, of the below items was a good learning experience for you?

I'm kind of altering the original idea and going through each activity. Some I like, some aren't so comfy, and some I've never tried. And for those of you that haven't been reading my blog and don't know me, I'm quite the switch, which is why I'm answering on both the top and bottom angles. ;)

The Checklist: Part I

Abrasion
I like sensations of many many kinds. If I'm understanding this right, it's abrasive sensation, sandpaper, etc? If that's the case, I'm up for trying it. ;)

Age Play
It's not my thing. I know people that are into it, but it's not something I would be into myself.

Anal Fisting
Receiving end? Oh no. Uh-uh. Giving end? If the other person was really into it (and I knew a little more about doing it safely), I'd consider it. It wouldn't be a suggestion I'd bring up personally (Hey, I know what we can do that's fun!!!). ;)

Anal Sex
Yup. When done properly, it's quite fun. Always remember: LUBE IS YOUR FRIEND.

Animal Roles
This one's kind of an odd one for me. I know it's referring to pony/puppy/kitty play, but I have a rather strong animal side to me, and it can show up during sexual play. It's not really a kink, just a personality thing.

Ass Worship / Analingus
Not something I've been on either end of. With proper safety precautions, it wouldn't be out of the picture either way.

Bathroom Use Control
Not something I'd find fun on either end.

Beating (Soft)
Beating (Hard)
As in rough body play? On the giving end: I'm learning a little bit about this, coincidentally. CK likes it, and I want to be able to do it safely. As the recipient: Not sure I'd dig it, but it's not something I've tried (other than playful wrestling with friends). Jury's out on that one.

Behavior Modification
I'm not interested so far in long-term D/s relationships, and this would definitely have to be along that line. It's interesting to hear about, however.

Begging
Depends on the individual, the setting, and the situation.

Being Bitten
Oh yeah. ;) I think we all know I like this one. Biting or being bitten, actually.

Belts
Haven't tried, either end. I'd be willing to.

Blindfolds
I like the idea of someone else in one; I find it aesthetically pleasant and fun from a top's point of view. As for myself, I'm not sure if I'd like it or not. I'd like to try wearing one at some point. The bit gag was an interesting headspace for me, and I wouldn't be surprised if a blindfold did something similar.

Body Writing
From a fun body art kind of perspective, could be interesting.

Body Worship With Tongue
I like to lick. ;) I like to be licked. That one's pretty simple. :)

Bondage (Light)
Bondage (Heavy)
I've played with light bondage so far and have enjoyed it immensely, both being the one bound and the one doing the binding. ;) Haven't tried heavy bondage yet, but am very willing.

Bondage (Public, Under Clothing)
The public stuff isn't my thing. I don't think I'd get a kick out of this one...

Boot Worship
Clothing is nice, but it's not a fetish to me. It's not anywhere near a limit or anything, but not something I'd seek out.

Branding (Permanent)
I rarely say never, but this one's close. There'd have to be a really good reason.

Breath Control / Asphyxiation
This is currently a limit for me. I can deal with having light pressure on my throat, but that's where the line is. And I also won't control someone else's breathing; it's too dangerous and I'm too new at all this.

Cages
I think it'd be fun to have someone on 'display', as it were. As for myself, I'm not one to like being on display myself. I do have to admit, though, a part of me does find the idea intriguing. I'm not sure if I'd enjoy it, but it would be an interesting experience.

Caning
Haven't tried it, but I really want to. Pretty welts. ;)

Castration Fantasy
As a mindfuck during a scene, it might be interesting...

Catheterization
Nope. I've been in too many hospitals and dealt with too much illness in others for this to be appealing to me.

Cattle Prod
That'd be fun to play with. *grin*

Cigarette / Cigar Smoke
Nope. Don't find it sexy in the least.

Chains
I enjoy the aesthetics of chains; they're visually, aurally, and tactilely appealing.

Choking
Discussed up there in breath play. *points up*

Clothespins (What body parts? )
Very curious about playing with clothespins. I picked some up during one of my 'pervertibles' trips to the dollar store, but haven't had the opportunity to use 'em yet. And what body parts? I really don't know, to be honest. I'm open to experimentation.

Clothing Specified
not sure what this one means?

Collars
Love the way they look on others, love the way they feel on me.

Competitions (With Other Subs)
This would be something I'd enjoy watching. ;)

Confinement (Long Or Short Term)
Confinement by itself? Not so much.

Crawling On Hands & Knees
This would have to be in context. I'm not into humiliation myself, and this resonates like that for me. If I was topping and my playmate was into it, that's another thing altogether.

Crossdressing
Pleasant to watch; not really a personal kink of mine, but I can appreciate the appeal of it for others.

Cuckoldry
I'm thinking this one's an N/A for me. :)

Cum Eating (yours)
Cum Eating (others)
Other than the spelling of 'cum' squicking me (don't know why. 'come' is fine, but 'cum' grates. :)), I don't have a problem with it in the context of giving oral sex, at least. Now, basic safety makes this one a no-no with casual partners.

Cuffs
Love 'em, both on myself and others.

Cum tasting, consumption (yours/others)
Didn't we just do this one? *points up*

Cunnilingus
I'm a fan. ;)

Cutting

I'm very curious about cuttings; I'm not sure how I'd enjoy being on the recieving end, but I think I'd dig it. As for being the one doing the cutting, I think I'd be too tempted to taste, which ain't healthy. ;)


Now, keep in mind: if I said I wasn't into your particular kink, please don't take it as an insult! My opinions are just that, and your mileage may vary. :)

If anybody has any questions about my answers or wants me to clarify, speak up! I'm listening. :)

Wednesday, September 24, 2008

Blogging Ego Boosts!

So (every time I start a post with the word So, I think of The Snarling Misanthrope. Thanks) I started playing with Feedburner yesterday. It's supposed to help people subscribe to my blog feed if they were having issues (apparently some were), optimize my readers' 'feed experience' (whatever that is), and get my name out there a little bit.

I have to admit to a little net-vanity here; I enjoy knowing that people are reading my blog. I like that people are perhaps learning something, or getting a laugh, or (to be embarrassingly honest) checking out my HNT pics. ;) I don't have a commercial interest in this blog in any way. Someday if I get a big readerbase (or if I get a bitchin' discount. ;)) I may add some affiliate links or somesuch, but otherwise there's no actual reason for me to really want to build my readership. I still do, so I'm going for it.

As for the Ego Boosts mentioned in the title:

Since I started using StatCounter in mid-August, I've gotten almost 700 page loads. 488 unique visitors (now, keep in mind, I think this is controlled by cookies and if people remove their cookie for the site that can skew it).

I get people visiting from home, from their phones, and from their work. ;) You know who you are.

People from all over the world have seen this blog at one point or another. The top ten countries:
  • The US had the most.
  • Then New Zealand! I have a big Kiwi following. *waves at Dee, VanImp, and the rest of the Kiwis!*
  • The UK's right after that.
  • Canada and...
  • ...France are tied.
  • Then Australia. I really think I need to move to the Southern Hemisphere.
  • Italy is next.
  • Ireland ties with Italy.
  • Then Poland and
  • The Ukraine.
There's more, but only two or three of each.

None of the hits came from search engines. A good amount came from links posted on other blogger's sites (thanks, all y'all!).

Now, all of those stats are from my original StatCounter. What does feedburner do for me?

it tells me that I have actual subscribers. Subscribers may not show up on my hits (I'm still not completely sure how that works), but I realize that there's people that actually read my stuff! Woo! I just have to make sure to keep my stuff interesting now. ;)

Thanks, all. You've read my ramblings, offered advice, and given feedback and encouragement.

Keep reading!

Friday, September 19, 2008

Non-kinky post alert! I got tagged...

Generally Useless But Fascinating Information About PantheraPardus

I got tagged. I haven't done one of these in quite a while, so I figured I'd cave to the tag. I haven't done anything kinky lately, so you guys are stuck with a meme tonight. *grin*

What are the last three songs you downloaded?
I don't generally download songs; I have recently downloaded some ringtones: the theme from Dexter, the theme from Torchwood, and Mrs Robinson (the Lemonheads version).

What are the last three places you visited?
Hrm. I don't go places often. Charlotte NC, Charleston SC, and Raleigh NC.

What are your three favorite movies?
They tend to change. Right now, Office Space, Snatch, and The Adventures of Buckaroo Banzai Across the Eighth Dimension.

What are your three favorite possessions. Huh. Dang. I'm not really sure how to answer this one, so I'll go mildly facetious. ;) But three that I'd miss if they were gone: My computer, my athame, and my Hitachi. *grin* So I guess I'm a technopaganperv. ;)


What three things can you not live without?
Books, physical contact, and meat. *nod*

What would be your three wishes?
Stabilization of the government and economy (yes, I'm counting that as one), a small harem, a life of leisure. ;)

What three things haven’t you done yet?
(to try to keep this post legitimate to the blog, I'm gonna make 'em kinky things I haven't done yet) Wax play, tried a violet wand (either end), bottomed in public.

What are your three favorite dishes?
Sushi/Sashimi (not really a dish, but it counts), shrimp and grits, and a good basic steak dinner.

Which three celebrities would you most like to hang out with?
Henry Rollins, Mike Rowe, and Jamie Hyneman.

Name three things that freak you out?
high-pitched sounds, some bridges, and mixing diet pepsi and milk (glares at CK. Ew.).

Name three unusual things you are good at.
making beer, talking down irate customers (not talking down _to_, but calming down), and (so I've been told) making kinky toys. ;)

Which three things are you coveting?
a shiny new computer (though I do like mine own), an evil stick, and a sexy corset. ;)

Name three bloggers you are tagging.
I'm going to let people tag themselves for this. ;)

Thursday, September 18, 2008

MMHNT!

This is entirely the fault of the Erotic Bohemian. All blame should be directed her way. ;)

M&Ms: they melt in your mouth, not in your...cleavage?


I'm actually surprised I'm brave enough to post shots like this...I think my shy may be starting to fade here and there. ;)

Tuesday, September 16, 2008

A Dull Evening...

...but sometimes dull is pleasant.

I've spent the day cross-stitching (thanks for the link to the book, you Erotic Bohemian, you), cleaning random parts of my apartment at random times, singing the fuzzy bits off of my practice rope (cheap manila. my hemp will be in soon) and trying to figure out how to singe off the fuzzies without actually singing the rope, and drinking my newly-delivered shipment of Adagio tea (thanks to Essin' Em for the new tea obsession. I like Republic of Tea, but I think Adagio may win).

And now for the evening. Probably more cross-stitch, research how to condition rope more efficiently, and maybe a hot bath. I decided to break open a bottle of my home-brewed red ale; it's been in the bottle for a few months now and may be at its peak. In fact...

...in fact, it's about perfect. *purr* A thousand times better than when I first bottled it. When getting that bottle out, I realized I still had a bottle of my stout left. I thought I was out. That was a happy discovery. :)

So, consider this post a toast to dull days and dull evenings. Sometimes they're just what's needed.

Plans Coming Up

Haven't really done much to write about in the past few days, so I thought I'd write up things I've got planned instead. I can tell you that I'm kind of twitching to play; I think I'm addicted. ;)
Anyway, here goes:
  • The manila/sisal experiment was put on hold. I found out after research that the sisal is not suitable at all for my purposes and can leave tiny splinters in the skin. I may be a masochist, but I ain't that much of one. The manila I put on hold because it seems to be overly fuzzy and I'm still trying to find an efficient way to singe off the excess (just using a candle seems like it'll take forever). I'll be getting some hemp soon, and I'll try the conditioning thing again.
  • I'm going to try to redo my soft leather flogger prototype with more solid sections of the goodwill jacket.
  • I think I may have to indulge in purchasing something from Lelo. They're pricy toys, but I haven't heard a bad review yet.
  • Research wax play. I'm getting quite curious about it.
  • Figure out how the hell to do the braid-weaves people use for flogger handles. I have no clue.

Any suggestions?

Thursday, September 11, 2008

Blue Days Can Kiss My Ass HNT.

I had kind of a down day today. There's no real reason for it; it's most likely related to exhaustion and work-stress, and it will pass soon enough.

However, I almost skipped the HNT today because I wasn't feeling terribly sexy. I'm still not, but I'm not gonna let a dip in the old self-esteem kick me today.

So, without further ado, welcome to Blue Days Can Kiss My Ass HNT:

Red and black flogger, lace underwear, one well-curved hip. The knickers (stealing a word from Curvaceous Dee. ;)) are somewhat new. I normally don't buy sexy clothing of any sort because I simply don't think I look good in it, but I made an exception for these (I have a black pair, too) because they were just too pretty. I rarely wear them because I don't think I do them justice.

My skin is far too pale and I always hesitate to show too much of it, but it contrasts interestingly with the red and black (two of my favorite colors) of the flogger. The rolls of flesh at my side are something I try desperately to hide with any clothing I wear; however, they're part of what makes me warm, soft, and (I'd think, at least) nice to cuddle.

Here's the crazy part: Looking at others, I really enjoy large women and find them very attractive. The rolls and curves that I think are sensual and attractive on other women, I'm shy about showing myself. It doesn't make any damn sense. I'm determined to get over this, and you guys are just gonna have to deal with being subjected to it. ;)

Wednesday, September 10, 2008

Rope Conditioning

I have several lengths of nylon/polyester rope that are essentially usable out of the package, and they seem like they'll work quite well. However, I keep hearing how much better natural fiber ropes are for bondage (and I'm sure they'll hold knots better). So, gonna try this.

I already had a couple of lengths of rope sitting around unconditioned (a length of sisal and a length of manila). These are not ropes that are traditionally considered the best for bondage, but I'm not planning on suspending anyone with them and the price was right for experimentation. ;)

I'm doing some research right now (*gasp* No, research? Me? Never!) on proper conditioning, and as usual I'm getting several different viewpoints on the best way to do so.

Some people say mink oil (can't afford it! ;)), tea oil, simple mineral oil, baby oil or vaseline, and some people just say to condition the rope with the oils from your own skin. Some people say boil, some don't.

Does anyone have any suggestions that have worked well for them?

Saturday, September 6, 2008

February??

While responding to a message from kinkylibrarian on Twitter, I realized something.

I haven't had sex since February. That's right, seven months ago, that February. Seven freaking months.

Now, I've had lots of snuggletime and makeout time and some nice floggings*, but no actual sex. No wonder my sex drive's been going batshit for a while now!

This post really doesn't have much of a point to it except to just say this: I really need to get laid. That is all. *grin*



*I'm finding that when I top, I'm enjoying myself immensely, but I'm really not sexually aroused at all. When I'm bottoming, I get (extremely!) sexually aroused...but not sexually frustrated. It's like the scene itself takes the place of sex, even though there may not be any actual sexual contact. It's a temporary fix, but it works. *snicker*

Friday, September 5, 2008

HN...F?

So I missed Half-Nekkid Thursday. I worked way too long and by the time I got home I was too wiped out to do anything. Sooo...

Happy Half-Nekkid Friday!


My new cuffs. I think they're technically made for ankles, but they work for the wrists too. Got a good deal on 'em, and they actually buckle as opposed to the cuffs I've got now (velcro. even when I'm restrained with them, I know for a fact that I can get out at any time I like).

Can't wait to use 'em as they're intended. *grin*

Top 100 Sex Bloggers

No, I'm not on this list. One, I'm new. Two, I'm rather dull. ;) Three, I don't think I'm technically a sex blogger; I've talked about BDSM play, but never actual sex (at least, from what I'm remembering). Yes, I know it's a technicality, but technicalities count. ;)

Why am I posting this list if I'm not on it? Because I apparently have very good taste. ;) Most of the blogs I read on a daily basis _are_ on this list, and I think everyone should read them. In addition, I follow some of these individuals on Twitter, and they're way too much fun to babble with. :)

So basically, pride in those that I'm learning from and a little bit of "I know them!" bragging. *grin*

(by the way, this list is copied and pasted from Sugarbutch. If you go to the Best Sex Bloggers of 2008 page, there are longer bios on many of the bloggers. I recommend it highly.)

1. Sinclair Sexsmith http://sugarbutch.net
2. Radical Vixen http://www.radicalvixen.com
3. Curvaceous Dee http://curvaceousdee.blogspot.com
4. Always Aroused Girl http://aagblog.com
5. Ellie Lumpesse www.lumpesse.com
6. Catalina http://catalinaloves.com
7. Selena Kitt http://selenakittyn.com
8-9. Wifey and Hubby http://wifeytalk.com
10. Roger http://wwww.dirtyboy2.blogspot.com
11. Shanna Katz http://essinem.blogspot.com
12. Amber Rhea http://www.beingamberrhea.com
13-14. Richard and Amy http://247richardandamy.com
15-16. MJ and MJ’s Slave http://www.aslavestruenature.blogspot.com
17. Thursday’s Child http://thursdayschildhasfartogo.blogspot.com
18. Narration by D http://narrationbyd.blogspot.com
19. Andrea Zanin http://www.sexgeek.wordpress.com
20. The Provocateur http://theprovocateur.wordpress.com
21. Violet Blue http://tinynibbles.com
22. Autumn http://dreamsofaneroticaqueen.sensualwriter.com
23. SSS http://sweatshopsissy.wordpress.com
24. Storm http://ambientstorm.blogspot.com
25. Sub lyn http://longdistancesub.blogspot.com
26. Tara Tainton http://www.taratainton.com/tarastrysts/index.html
27. Jake http://factsandfriction.blogspot.com
28. Cherry Bomb http://cherrybombnyc.blogspot.com
29. Lakey http://fairelaffaire.blogspot.com
30. Scarlet http://feministfucktoy.com
31. Glenpreece http://lastbreath.wordpress.com
32. Lolita Wolf http://www.leatheryenta.com
33. Vixen http://blue-eyedvixen.com
34. Tom Paine http://perverselypoly.blogspot.com
35. Tongue Tied Blue http://tonguetiedblue.blogspot.com
36. Maymay http://www.maybemaimed.com
37. Miss Bliss http://blog.blisswarrior.com
38. Mistress Maeve http://7d.blogs.com/mistress
39. Nadia http://www.kinkylibrarian.net
40. Luka http://barbedwireboudoir.blogspot.com
41-42. Odysseus and Penelope http://marriedexploits.blogspot.com
43. Eileen http://bloodylaughter.com
44. Calico http://dominatrixnextdoor.com/blog
45. Caroline Shepherd http://feministsexcarnival.blogspot.com
46. Kathleen http://polyspace.wordpress.com
47. Packing Vocals http://packingvocals.blogspot.com
48. Audacia Ray http://www.wakingvixen.com
49. Axe http://unspeakableaxe.com
50. Baccus http://www.erosblog.com
51. Chelsea Summers http://prettydumbthings.typepad.com/chelseagirl
52. Debauchette http://debauchette.wordpress.com
53. The Butterfly Temptress http://thebutterflytemptress.com
54. Dirty Little Girl http://dirtylittlemind.blogspot.com
55. Sexy Whispers http://sexywhispers.wordpress.com
56. Wendy Blackheart http://www.heartfullofblack.com
57-58. Padme and Anakin http://darkside-journey.blogspot.com
59-60. Him and Her http://sexcakes.blogspot.com
61. Slip of a Girl http://aslipofagirl.blogspot.com
62. Blowjob Babe http://strokesuckswallow.blogspot.com
63-64. Dirty Debbie and CJ http://dirtydebbie.blogspot.com
65. Scorpio http://adventuresofascorpio.blogspot.com
66. Charlotte http://charlottethorpe73.wordpress.com
67. Bitchy Jones http://bitchyjones.wordpress.com
68. Anastasisa http://www.chaosnoir.com/anastasia
69. Alice http://anonymous-alice.blogspot.com
70. Anita Wagner http://practicalpolyamory.blogspot.com
71. Jack http://roughwords.blogspot.com
72. Mistress Matisse http://mistressmatisse.blogspot.com
73. Mariella http://wannaplaymariella.blogspot.com
74. O http://eros-logos.blogspot.com
75. Shasta Gibson http://shastagibson.com
76. Gwen http://www.pop-shot.blogspot.com
77. fivestar http://www.iamfivestar.com
78. Lilly http://dangerouslilly.blogspot.com
79. Penny http://birdsaresmart.blogspot.com
80. Figleaf http://www.realadultsex.com
81. Tony http://www.comstockfilms.com/blog/tony
82. Viviane http://www.thesexcarnival.com
83. Six http://sixelaborates.wordpress.com
84. Bob http://bobsbestboobs.com
85-99. Fiammetta, Jill, Robyn, Scarlot, Melissa, Kitten, Karly, Holly, Surgeon, Stacey, Tara, Jessica, Gina, Wendy, and Tori http://deepthroated.wordpress.com
100. _________________________ Why is #100 blank? Because I know there are dozens…hundreds…of other amazing sex bloggers out there, and I want everyone to be a part of this list.

Sunday, August 31, 2008

Thoughts About Submission

Before I started researching BDSM and talking to more people in the lifestyle, I used to refer to some of my moods as 'dominant' and 'submissive'. After the research, I actually amended that. I really tend to be more 'top' or 'bottom' than 'dom' or 'sub'. I can be dominant or submissive for a period of time, but I'm not either on a permanent basis.

Last night CK and I had a playdate. Any play we've done before has been almost impromptu, short, and not extremely intense. This was a full-blown planned and anticipated scene as opposed to the casual nature of our other playtimes. The anticipation, I found, really put me in an interesting frame of mind. It seemed to do the same for him, if I were to judge by the intensity of the scene.

He called me before he came over to talk about dinner plans, and then he says, "I think I'm going to put a gag on you tonight.". I think I actually paused before answering "Oo-kay.". The idea seemed kind of out of the blue, and I've never worn a gag (or even really thought about it) before. He followed up with, "What do you think about that? Is that all right?". I replied with, "I'll try anything once." and then we talked about other things.

When he came over, we ate dinner and talked, and then playtime started. As I'm sure I've mentioned a dozen times before, CK bites. He was in more of a biting mood than usual and he was much more physical about it than usual, grabbing me and restraining me with hands and body while he sank his teeth into my back, my shoulders, and my neck. I was already breathless by the time he moved me where he wanted me. He pulled a bit gag out of his bag and asked me again if I was okay with it. I nodded, but I was oddly hesitant. I really don't know why I was hesitant about it...it was strange. I agreed to try it, though. He turned me around and fitted the gag in my mouth, buckling it under my hair. While I was facing away from him, he ran a hand over my back and then bit me again, hard. I could still make as much noise as I wanted, but couldn't articulate.

CK stripped me down to my underwear, had me lean against the counter, and raked his nails over my back several times (that always makes me shiver). He then turned me around and asked if I was still okay. I nodded slowly. At this point he just stared at me for a moment, stroking my hair, and I stared back. I was almost trembling, and we hadn't even really started yet. He jokingly bemoaned the fact that his camera batteries were dead, because (and I quote) "You look really hot in that.". He turned me back around and started grabbing floggers out of my bag.

Right then, I really felt more vulnerable than I have in a long time. My hands and feet were free, I wasn't restrained in any way other than by CK telling me where to put my feet and hands. Standing there nearly naked, gagged, skin already tingling from the marks of nails and teeth, I felt exposed, vulnerable, and I enjoyed every second of it.

The flogging itself I won't go into a play-by-play on for the simple reason that it would get dull fast. I will say that the rope flogger I made with the three knots on each strand? When used with force, it leaves a gathering of welts that turns into a gathering of tiny bruises. It's harsh. That one, the bootlace flogger, and the large red and black ones are the ones that made me squeal and writhe the most. CK likes the heaviness of the red and black one, while I like the sharp sting of the bootlace. After a while, he removed the gag; he didn't want it to get too uncomfortable my first time wearing it.

Finally he stopped a little abruptly, changed the tone of the music (he'd set up a soundtrack; heavier music for the scene itself and quieter music for cooling down), and lightly started stroking my back. When it got through my somewhat fuddled mind that we were done, I protested lightly "We're done? Aw..." and "I could go longer...", but didn't push it when he drew me over to the couch to sit.

See, a while back, I told CK I wanted to take baby steps, and asked him to keep an eye on me to make sure I didn't go too far too fast and do anything stupid. I apparently jumped in a way that made him really look closely at me, and he decided I'd had enough. He was right, I'm sure, but at that moment he could have suggested damn near anything and I would have agreed. "Wanna try flesh hook suspension with dinner forks?" "Oh sure! sounds like fun!!". *snicker* So yeah, it's good to have someone that's actually keeping a watch. I'd lost track of time, it seems. I thought it had been maybe fifteen minutes, and it had been nearly an hour.

Now, coming back to the title of the post. When CK has topped me in the past (either the two mini-scenes or the many times we'd just played around with teeth and nails and flesh), I never really felt truly submissive. Bottom-y, yes, but not really submissive. If someone bites me on the back of the neck or tugs my hair just right, it puts me in a somewhat submissive mood, but that only goes so far. When he put that bit in my mouth and buckled it tight, it put me straight into a very submissive headspace. Even though my hands were free, I would never have thought about removing it unless I had permission to do so. It was a strange and almost scary feeling, and it took me a while thinking about it afterward to process.

I ultimately concluded that I liked the feeling, that headspace, at least tentatively. ;) It's something I'm curious about exploring in the future. I'm also wondering if that was a one-time thing or if being gagged like that will always put me into that submissive space.

CK had fun too; he's normally the one doing the bottoming, and these playtimes give him a chance to let out his top/sadistic side. I think he's enjoying exploring that side of himself.

In any case...it was amazingly fun, I'm amazingly sore, and I have some amazingly cool bitemarks. If I can get the boy back over before they fade, I'll try to get some pics. They're not in spots that I can photograph successfully.

Anybody else have odd triggers like that, or notice a difference between bottom-space and subspace? Am I overthinking things (because I do tend to do that)? Anybody want to massage a sore back and ass? ;)

Friday, August 29, 2008

Leather!


So I bought an old leather jacket at Goodwill for twenty bucks. I did this as much to learn how to work with leather as anything else, because it was simply cheaper than buying leather of the same grade just to practice on.

The jacket was of a thin leather with a soft, not-quite-suede backside. I deconstructed the jacket, and used the arms to make a prototype flogger. I really only made it originally as a pattern, figuring I'd buy good leather to make a real flogger. I kind of wanted to get the feel of it.

Y'know what? I think it may just work as a real toy. The 26 falls are 1/4", and so very very soft. It makes a wicked slapping sound, but a minimum of actual impact. It may even be softer than the brushed-out rope.

I'm pleased with the result. Now to buy good thicker leather and make something a little more intense...*grins evilly*

Thursday, August 28, 2008

Getting Bolder on the HNT Thing...


So this time I'm showing off one of my new toys: nylon rope that's been through my supersecret patented dyeing proces (okay, so not supersecret. I used Kool-Aid. What? It's pretty and it smells like grape. ;)). The pic above is the black cherry version, the one I'm wearing is grape. *grin*




Happy HNT!
(by the way, Dee...took the bra off. Where's my chocolate? ;))

Sunday, August 24, 2008

Photoshoot Pics

Not of me. ;) CK requested a photoshoot; I think as much to impress a girl as anything else. *grin* I obliged, because I enjoy photography quite a bit, and it's just fun to get the boy nearly naked and in cuffs, chains, and/or rope.

So, I figured I'd post a few of them. The ones I'm posting don't show enough of his face for you to be able to pick him out of a crowd, and that's as much to keep me from being outed as him. I really don't think he'd care if I posted the ones with his face in 'em, but it's one of those things. Anonymity and privacy are big things for me.

On to the pics!

These two turned out very well. I like both versions, but I think I'm tending toward liking the warmth of the color version best. The black and white is rather artistic, though.
He's got a pair of leather wrist cuffs that he finds very comfortable, but he doesn't have an ankle set. The boy needs to pick some up. The shibari was an experiment, and too much fun to tie.


He just looks really good in the shot on the left. And as for the right, I love a hogtie. :)



There's lots of pics I unfortunately can't share unless I crop out his head or blur his face; either way it'd be a shame. So right now, these are going to be it. There'll probably be another shoot in the future, and I'll share others then.

Enjoy, people. ;)

Friday, August 22, 2008

Lochai Directing for Hogtied.com!

(crossposted verbatim from Catalina Loves. Click link for original post)

Lochai "working" at Hogtied.com

SAN FRANCISCO (August 22, 2008) – Award-winning fine art bondage photographer Lochai will take over from Matt Williams as director of Kink.com’s Hogtied.com, the company announced today.

“Hogtied was our first site and we still consider it our flagship,” said Kink.com founder and CEO Peter Acworth. “We’re very pleased to bring Lochai on to continue the Hogtied tradition. He’s one of the best-known bondage riggers around and for years he’s been out there in the community, both as a photographer and as an educator. Most importantly, he really gets what’s fun and beautiful and hot about women in bondage – he understands the Kink.com esthetic. I’m very much looking forward to working with him.”

Lochai’s inaugural update on Hogtied.com is a sizzling 56-minute scene with 22-year-old Virginian beauty Isobel Wren. Shot when Lochai was auditioning for his new role, the scene currently headlines the site, In it, Wren is placed in Lochai’s trademark Japanese-influenced rope bondage and subjected to a stunning number of screaming orgasms, including a copious squirt. Throughout, Lochai’s sardonic humor tempers the intense bondage and stimulation.

Said Lochai:

“Everything that’s done in any of the Kink.com sites is real, so it’s not like I’m acting a part. I’m actually being myself. I’m sarcastic, I’m a smart ass, I laugh during scenes and I also console when someone’s upset. I’m going to be doing my real play, my real life, within the walls of the Armory, because that’s what’s expected by the customers — and that’s what’s expected by Kink.com. I’m going to be super comfortable there, because I feel like I’m home.”

An award winning photographer whose work appears in galleries as well as in publications like The British Journal of Photography, Secret, Skin Two, Bizarre, and in his own fine art books, Lochai is equally well known as a bondage educator, teaching classes at conferences around the United States and doing public scenes in nightclubs and at fetish events. A founding director of the Photo Artisans Guild (PAG), in West Palm Beach Florida, he was also the co-founder and co-curator of the Traveling Erotic Art Show, which spent two years touring the United States. He also moderates a group on BDSM social networking site FetLife, CommUNITY Building, that seeks to build BDSM and alternative sexuality leadership skills.

Lochai takes over from longtime Hogtied.com director Matt Williams, who began directing the site in 2003. Williams was recently promoted to Kink.com’s Creative Director, and will be guiding creative development on new sites as well as Kink.com’s existing sites. “I’m looking forward to helping with the overall creative level,” said Williams. “I’m going to work with existing sites and new sites both, developing the look and feel, and sharing fantasies that I have in my head — I have great ideas for each one of our sites.”

Williams will continue to direct unscripted girl-girl erotic wrestling site UltimateSurrender.com, which he calls “my little baby.” “I’m going to hang on to that – I have some great ideas for the future.”

Lochai expressed his excitement about his new role.

“Every person who’s ever sat down in front of me in a classroom, or who has surrounded me out in a club to watch what I’m doing, has wanted this job. They want to get paid to tie up beautiful women and get them off – and that’s my job. It’s a wonderful feeling, and an affirmation that my kink pays off.”

A longtime Florida resident, Lochai will be relocating in September to the San Francisco area. He says he’ll continue his work teaching bondage and SM lifestyle classes, both at the half-dozen conferences he traditionally attends annually, and in the San Francisco area.

For more information about Lochai, visit his site Kirinawa.com or email the Kink.com Public Relations Manager at thomas@kink.com. Webmasters interested in promoting Kink.com content, including Hogtied.com, please visit www.KinkyDollars.com or email the Kink.com affiliate manager at terry@kink.com.

ABOUT HOGTIED.COM: Hogtied was the first site in the Kink.com network, directed by founder Peter Acworth from 1997 until Matt Williams took over in 2003. Updated every Tuesday, Hogtied.com offers members more than 15,000 streaming minutes and more than 84,000 photos in over 400 episodes that feature beautiful women subjected to sexual rope bondage, erotic punishment, and repeated orgasms.

ABOUT KINK.COM: San Francisco erotica studio Kink.com provides authentic fetish entertainment that seeks to demystify alternative sexualities and inspire sexual adventurers. Since the launch of its first site, Hogtied.com, in 1997, Kink.com has developed a network of premium adult sites that now operate from studios in the San Francisco Armory, a decommissioned National Guard facility with sets ranging from stark dungeons to luxurious pieds-à-terre. Kink.com also operates a free documentary site at BehindKink.com and the leading fetish affiliate network, KinkyDollars.com.

Thursday, August 21, 2008

Cause and effect...HNT?

Never thought I'd be doing this, but...

So there's cause and then there's effect. It's simply the way the world works, and we have no power over the sequence.

The cause:And the effect:



Happy HNT!

(note: this post is done in a tongue in cheek manner, of course. This isn't a drunken moment of exhibition; merely a sleepy moment of exhibition. *grin*)

Dollar Store Run and Craft Day

After the play-party the other night, I got some interesting ideas for pervertibles and decided to go on a hunt. Off to the Dollar Store I went!

Click, of course, for a larger image. There are four different types of clips: wooden clothespins for the purists, rubberized spring clips, hard plastic spring clips and metal spring clips. They all have different strengths. I also picked up the makeup and pencil cases I have them in.

The red fuzzy thing is a mini-duster. Very soft and tickly. The black things below the duster are vinyl headbands. They actually deliver a decent stinging slap, and one has tiny vinyl teeth on one side. I'm trying to decide if I want to try to fabricate some sort of handle for them.

Then there's the black spatula. Don't laugh, I saw one used to good effect at the party. ;) Then a dish brush with two nice scratchy brush surfaces with different textures. There's a three-pack of hand sanitizer, a package of thumbtacks, and a pair of thin work gloves with a slightly nubbly grip surface on the palm. The long thing in the upper right: a two pack of glow-stick necklaces. *grin* 22", whippy and stingy, and come with a black plastic sleeve to protect them before you actually want to use them. The sleeve itself is also interestingly stingy, and in a slightly different way.

A nice selection of stuff, no? And right around fifteen bucks, including tax.

Now, last night, during our weekly tabletop roleplaying game (my entire gaming group is kinky. It's actually very cool), I pull out one of the gloves, some glue, and the thumbtacks. Normally during the game I'm snuggling on the couch with CK, so he was understandably curious when I started focusing on my project instead. SC caught what I was doing almost immediately and started grinning. FM couldn't quite see me from his angle, so he just glanced over once in a while to see what was happening.

Once it became obvious what I was doing, CK perked up. "What does that feel like?" "Can I feel it?" I kept getting at various points of my creative process. *grin* I finally finished the prototype. I think I may redo it with the other glove, because the first one just ain't cute. But, just so you can see:

It's interesting. When I first tried it out, I was obviously using it too lightly, because CK started laughing from the tickling. I finally found the right pressure after a few tries and feedback from the boy.

Slightly off-topic, but that's one thing I need to work on with any implement: Because I'm new and I don't really know what the real effect of some of these things are when wielded by another person, I tend to be too timid. I need to be less cautious, but I also don't want to go too hard, either. I'll find a balance eventually, after some practice.

Tuesday, August 19, 2008

Owies.

Did I mention the boy bites? Deep, strong bites. On me, when it starts to bruise this quickly, it's gonna be around for a while. It hurt like a motherfucker...and it felt so good.

Today it's sore. Every time I flex my shoulder and back muscles just right, I can feel the deeper bites like muscles sore from exercise. And I even enjoy this soreness.

When he bites, CK tends to hold me so I can't move. Last night I let myself struggle a little bit; not enough that I was going to actually break away, but enough that he had to work a bit to hold on. The struggle wasn't a complaint. I sometimes just like to test the strength of whatever (in this case, whomever) is restraining me. I could tell from the boy's reactions that he liked that small bit of resistance. I think it surprised him (both that I liked to struggle and that he enjoyed it as well)...surprised me a bit too.

I thought both reactions were interesting...and now I'm curious. That's how things always start...

Sunday, August 17, 2008

First Play Party: Wow.

It was actually hard coming up with a title for this post. The first thing that popped into my head was humorous, of course (it wouldn't be me, otherwise) : "First Play Party: The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly". Problem is, there was no bad and no ugly. One perfectly good title down the tubes.

It was a blast. There's an orientation before every party for first-timers, which makes sure the rules are known before entering the playspace. As for the playspace, all I can say is: Wow. Just wow.

And that thing about not playing during the first party, just observing? Yeah. Right. That lasted about an hour and a half. *grin*

I can't go into a great deal of detail about the space or the people because I have no sort of permission from any of the participants to do so, but a few things I saw:

  • Some beautiful, beautiful clothing. I want a corset more than ever now.
  • Some beautiful, beautiful people, male and female alike. Many of the beautiful, strong, sensuous dominant women there? Larger women. Gorgeous.
  • A feeding scene. Not my kink personally, but fascinating to watch.
  • CBT performed on a couple of amazingly tough gentlemen.
  • A wonderful foot-fetish scene.
  • Some wonderful toys I'd never seen before. An evil stick? Gods, who came up with this thing? Instant welt, every time. I want one.
And some things I did:

  • Learned to lace a corset. A waist cincher, to be exact. Got her down to about 22.5 inches.
  • Learned a tiny bit of shibari. More just a little bit of the idea behind shibari, but it counts.
  • Used a riding crop for the first time. Love it.
  • Gave birthday spankings to an attractive gentleman I'd just met that evening ('spankings' is a relative term. There was a riding crop involved).
  • Flogged, scratched, bit, admired the ass of, and cropped a lovely young man that I'd never even spoken to (I was brought in as a third top for this lucky guy).
That's a quick overview of it, of course, but it gives a basic idea of the excellent first experience I had. I really and truly hope I reflected well on my 'sponsors' (SC and FM; they've been members of this group for a good while now). I tried not to come off as too much of a tourist, but I don't know how successful I was. There was so much to see!

I do have to admit, by the time midnight rolled around, I was a little overwhelmed. Not in a bad way, but there was just a great deal to process.

It was like Disneyland for pervs. Awesome. :)