Thursday, November 6, 2008

Blog Moved: now tweaking

Okay, guys, the blog is moved to http://www.ramblingnewbie.com. All new posts are going to go up there, so change your subscriptions accordingly. :)

It'll be new, improved, and with now fewer warning screens! Meaning, of course, none.

If there are any questions or concerns, feel free to comment.

Thursday, October 30, 2008

Samhain HNT.

Inspired by VanillaImpaired.

HNT is late this time, for one reason. Halloween has always been my favorite holiday, when I get to be someone else for a while. Once I became pagan (twenty years ago? really?), it began to have a different sort of meaning to me. 

So today, like VanImp, I'll be drinking some wine and saying some words to old friends no longer here. This year, for a change, I'm going to celebrate who I'm becoming rather than pretending I'm something or someone I'm not. 

To change. 


And you'll notice toward the bottom my darling boy-cat charging up his lasers for the occasion.

Sunday, October 26, 2008

Blog Moving!

Due to various and sundry reasons, I've decided to take the plunge and get a domain for the blog.

This site will remain up for at least a good while as I get things settled over there and get things going.   The new URL will be http://www.ramblingnewbie.com, and I think it'll be worth it.  To see a preview, check out http://pantherapardus.wordpress.com

Any questions, throw 'em at me. :)

Friday, October 24, 2008

Quickie Post

Just wanted to let you guys know I'm still around, and I'll be doing at least a couple of posts in the next couple of days.  Family issues are calming down and will hopefully be back to normal in a month or so. 

Posts upcoming: Humor and fun in BDSM. A review of the Bandito (thanks, Essin' Em!). Possibilities for moving the blog. A little introspection (yes, again, introspection). More pervertibles. More DIYs and How-tos.

So look forward to those, and more.  In the next few weeks, I'll also be starting to review products for Babeland.com, which is a supercool thing. If you'll look on the right of this page, you'll notice a Babeland graphic. Click on that if you decide to shop, kay? ;)

More later.

Thursday, October 23, 2008

Gaming Night HNT!

So my whole gaming group is kinky.

Tonight, we played for the first time in a few weeks (d20 Modern X-Files homebrewed game). We jokingly threatened CK ("No, don't throw me in that there briar patch!") with being tied up after the game.

Without going into too much detail--because really, I'm simply too tired for a full-blown post--here, ladies and gentlemen, is your HNT for this week. Not me this time, mind you. ;)

Enjoy!

Tuesday, October 21, 2008

Oh Noes! I've been tagged!

The Butterfly Temptress tagged me with a meme!


The Rules-
* Link to your tagger and list these rules on your blog.
* Share 7 facts about yourself on your blog - some random, some weird.
* Tag 7 people at the end of your post by leaving their names as well as links to their blog.
* Let them know they have been tagged by leaving a comment on their blog.

Step one: check.

Step two:

  • I roast coffee, brew beer, and can skin and butcher my own meat.
  • I get mildly obsessive about learning how things work.
  • My college work was in psych and criminal justice.
  • I've been trying to get the Playgirl issue with Peter Steele (from Type O Negative) for about ten years now; I've offered upwards of fifty bucks, but nobody I know will part with it.
  • I love durian (It's a fruit. Look it up. You'll understand why it's worth mentioning).
  • I've seen Tom Jones live in concert. And y'know what? He was pretty damn cool. So was Johnny Mathis.
  • I have a small collection of bladed weapons that I'm always interested in expanding.
Step 3: This one's tough, cause damn near everybody's been tagged already...but here goes.

Thursday's Child: Because she's just so much fun.
Narration by D: Because he doesn't write enough!
Mina and Sylvanus: Because I miss them on Twitter.
Alpine Subdreams: Because she posts pretty pictures. I still love the feathers!
Ellie: Because I'm so going to meet her one of these days.
VanImp: Simply because she's awesome.
Curvaceous Dee: Because she inspired me to start this blog and I love her for it. ;)

Step 4: Profit! Err..comment! I'll get right on that (eventually). ;) Forgive me if your comment doesn't show up for a day or two...

Monday, October 20, 2008

Many Colors of Rope

Pretty pretty colors. :)

Some of these you've seen pictures of before, but here they are all together.
The colors unfortunately don't come through as well as I'd like, but I'm working with a camera phone. Them's the breaks until I get a decent camera.

The one at the top was the length I dyed last night: 30 feet of 6mm hemp. I used Scarlet 5 Rit brand dye, the liquid form. I followed the instructions to a point, though I didn't stir constantly (it's rope, not fabric), and I did let it simmer longer than recommended because I was *ahem* testing a new acquisition for review and got distracted. I found it easy to use (just dump in the water, heat, and go), but it seemed to take longer to rinse to the point of clear water than other methods. That may be because of the longer simmer time, but we'll see. The color was very true to the label and very even. I also dyed two white cotton shop towels to match. I figure I'll throw 'em in my toybag for various and sundry needs. ;)

The second one is also 30 feet of 6mm hemp. The dye used for this experiment was Purple 15 Rit brand dye, powder form. The instructions said to add a little detergent to the dyebath and a cup of salt, which the liquid form did not. I followed the directions on this batch almost exactly, and the color came out beautifully rich and even. It was somewhat darker than the package, but that's what I was going for. It rinsed clear faster than the liquid type. I dyed two matching shop towels for this color as well. Gorgeously rich purple.

The third is another 30 feet of 6mm hemp. I used Kool-Aid for this one, three packs of Tropical Punch and one of Grape. The process is described in a little more detail a bit farther down in this entry, when I talk about my first experiments with it. The color isn't as rich as I'd like, and didn't seem to penetrate perfectly. I did only leave it on the stove for about half an hour, so perhaps longer time is needed.

The fourth is yet another 30 feet of 6mm hemp. This is the rope in its natural state, and I put it in the picture so you can see the base color for the previous three experiments. :)

The fifth and sixth in the picture are each 30 foot lenghts of an 8mm nylon-poly blend. To dye them, something I've mentioned before: Kool-Aid. The top one was Grape and the bottom Black Cherry. I also have a 30 foot length of Tropical Punch, not shown. ;) I saw several websites dealing with the idea, and all were different. The one I stuck with had some good visuals. Now, the page said to use one package per ounce; that's overkill, people! Experiment with it, but you don't need nearly that much. Now, you'll notice that it's not a uniform color. That was unexpected, but not a bad thing at all. Basically, one type of fiber took the dye and the other didn't. The resulting effect is very pretty, almost candy-like. If I could figure out which fiber took the dye, and then find another type of dye for the other fiber? That'd be fun. ;) Any suggestions are welcome.

The seventh is 50 feet of 10mm nylon-poly blend. I used Red Rit brand dye (I don't recall the number), powder version. I was actually disappointed in this dyejob. I followed the Two Knotty Boys' instructions to the letter, down to the exact brand and length of rope. I'm thinking either I completely missed something in the video I found, or there's something odd about my water chemistry. Either way, instead of rich, even color I got an odd variegated pattern. Now, after the fact, I kinda like it. It looks vaguely like serpentine scales (only vaguely, but the impression is there).

The eighth experiment was the first I did, actually. It's about five feet of approximately 6mm nylon-poly, dyed with super-strong tea (English Breakfast, to be precise, but any black tea will do). Brew it hella strong, strain out the leaves, then let the material simmer in the pot for a while. The color on the white rope makes it look somewhat like hemp at a glance; on fabrics like linen it makes it look antique.


To sum up: All of these experiments worked to a degree. For the truest, deepest colors, Rit seems to be the way to go. The Kool-Aid dyed ropes would be suitable to use in the mouth (bit gags and such; thank you again, Two Knotty Boys). The Rit-dyed rope I would be uncomfortable using like that unless it's been washed several times and I was sure of the colorfastness.

All of these methods were similar in ease of use and ease of cleanup, the very simplest was the liquid Rit, which called for no additives. Colorfastness has yet to be truly determined, because that's going to take time, use, and washings. The Black Cherry rope has been used and washed once and kept its color perfectly. As for color transfer to the skin, I think it passed the test (FM? Chime in. Did ya end up with any Kool-Aid marks in unfortunate spots? ;)).

A caveat to anyone that I practice on: I apologize if you end up with dyemarks. ;) I'll keep soap on hand for cleanup.

As always, if anyone has any suggestions or comments, I love hearing them!

Sunday, October 19, 2008

I Can Has Toys?

So I won a contest! 

Essin' Em ran a contest on her blog Sexuality Happens, and the prize was the Bandito.  My limerick squeaked out a win (not sure how; there were some really good ones submitted. Check them out).  Also, check out the contest she's throwing for her two year blogiversary. It looks like a hoot and I can't wait to see the results. 

Yeah, so I'll soon have a new toy. I've been wanting one anyway, and this one looks like it's fun and versatile. ;)  It'll be my first silicone toy as well, and I'm looking forward to it.  Fun Factory has a good reputation, from what I understand.  And of course, in good blogger fashion, I'm just gonna have to share my opinions when I get a chance to try it out. *grin*  

In other news, I've changed my mind on the dyeing of the hemp rope. I'm leaving one 30' length its natural color and dyeing the other three lengths with three different methods. When I'm done, I'll let you know how each method worked. That post should be up by Monday if all goes well. 

Again, thank you all for your patience during the past couple of weeks.  Normal posting should be back on track soon.

Saturday, October 18, 2008

just a quickie

Hey there, this is just a quick post to let you all know that I'm still around and that I haven't forgotten about you.

I've had kind of a rough week on the family health front, so I haven't been in much of a headspace to post. However, things are starting to look up, so I'm going to be making myself get back into my routines again.

I have several posts planned, and there will be a review coming up at some point...so stay tuned!!

(Forgive any oddness about this post; I'm writing it in a restaurant on lunch break)

Thursday, October 9, 2008

No Ass Shot This Week HNT!

So instead of ass, there will be boobies. 

This is a pleather bustier I got from Torrid a few years back. I dig it. ;) 

This shot is far less careful than most shots I've done so far for HNT. Instead of being focused on a small area, it shows stretchmarks and belly and arms and such...but it also shows boobies. Therefore...all is well. 

Also featured in this picture are some now-greenish remainders of some lovely bite-bruises on the soft curve of one breast and on my belly just beneath the bustier.  I debated showing those because I wasn't sure how most HNT viewers would react...then I really thought about it. My conclusion? If they don't like it, there's plenty more bare flesh out there to look at. I'm doing this for me, not for them...and I enjoy my bruises. ;)

As for the pictures hinted at in the post from Sunday, you'll just have to wait. I don't have my paws on 'em yet. But soon...

Wednesday, October 8, 2008

Pervertibles, First Installment!

I'd like to make this a semi-regular installment on this blog. We'll see how it goes.

The word 'pervertible' is not a word I coined, but my personal definition of it is this: something that is marketed as a mundane item that can be used in a decidedly different, and kinky, way.

I consider it different from DIY. Pervertibles are things that are usable as they are, or with very minor alterations. The DIY stuff consists of toys made from other things, if you get the distinction.

This first installment will consist of things I've already picked up, where I got the item and approximate pricing. The ones I've used I'll review. ;) 

1. Dish Brush. Dollar Tree. $1.

This worked really well. The wide head full of stiff bristles got nice squirming, and the little bitty area of even stiffer scrubbing bristles on the backside (when I wrote this, I meant backside of the brush, but backside of the victim works in this context too. :)) got even more. This experiment was a success.

2. Mini-Duster. Dollar Tree. $1.

I figured this for a tickling kind of toy, but it wasn't as effective as I'd hoped. I may go for a second test run of it with a different bottom (and different body parts). 

3. Flipper. Dollar Tree. $1. 

This was a fun one. *grin* It's hard plastic, but just very slightly flexible. It gets a nice snap on various body parts. This was a very good success. 

4. Wooden 'paddle'. Craft store. < $1.

This thing was even labeled 'paddle'! Very nice, very stingy, completely nondescript. Another success.

5. Various and sundry clothespins, pegs, and clamps. Dollar Tree. $1 each pack. (cat not included)

Wow, these worked well. I'd never played with these guys before Saturday night (either on myself or others). I used the metal ones on DB for just a few minutes (he hadn't used any quite that tight before). When they did finally come off and the blood started coming back...that was fun to watch. *grin* Now, the wooden ones: CK and I were doing a little playing last night(not a full-on scene, just a little fun) and he dragged 'em out. All I have to say is: wooooow. Best buck I ever spent. My nipples are still sore and supersensitive. I think I may coat the bitey end of a few of the wooden ones in tool dip for easier cleaning (in case I end up using 'em somewhere other than nipples. *grin*). Big success!

6. Loofah glove. Dollar Tree. $1.

Mildly scratchy surface. I haven't used this one yet, but I think it'll be interesting when I do.

7. Handled cutting board. Old Pottery (inexpensive kitchen/decorative stuff). $1.99.  

This is going to be a very effective paddle, I think. *grins evilly* I find myself walking through dollar stores, craft stores and kitchen stores smacking various things as subtly as possible against my thigh to test its pervertibility quotient. ;) This was my latest treasure.

Like I said, I hope to make this at least a semi-regular thing. I'll post websites as I find them. If any of you have any ideas or interesting sites, send 'em my way! There's an email link below. Pictures are always welcome, and I'll include any submissions in a future installment, credited to the submitter. :)

Tuesday, October 7, 2008

Conditioning Rope

(edited because I completely forgot to reference and link to the company I purchased the rope from as I meant to!)

The hunt for rope began at Home Depot. 


I picked up a package of a nylon/polyester solid-braid blend and made floggers out of it. This began my fascination with the stuff. After that, I picked up another pack of 8mm nylon/poly, this one more of a twisted rope. I cut this into thirty-foot lengths, and this was my first set of bondage rope (the set I dyed with kool-aid, if you've been taking notes). I also picked up some ten-millimeter stock. I used this to make a rather heavy flogger that's quite nice. 

In the interim, I bought a batch of manila and another of sisal. The manila simply isn't going to get where I want it to be, therefore I gave up. As for the sisal, I researched it and realized it really wasn't going to suit my needs before I wasted any time trying to condition it.

So I finally got my hemp rope in.  It's from a company called Rawganique out of Canada.



After getting good information from Ellie Lumpesse, I started by singeing the rope to remove any sharp or long fibers.  I had a pot of water on hand in case of incident. The water attracted a certain curious pussycat.
After that, I plopped it into the pot to let it boil. It boiled for six long, stinky hours. I then dumped it out and hung it to dry.



This morning, I stretched it. My tools? Gloved hands and my feet. 

After the stretching came more singeing, then I oiled it with scented mineral oil. I'm not sure how much oil is actually called for, but I'm going to be working the rope more and adding more oil. It's very very lovely, and I have four thirty-foot lengths of it.

I also have a spare three feet that I'll be using for several dyeing experiments. This first batch is staying its natural color, however.


Conclusion: While I'm not completely done conditioning this rope, I will say it was worth the time. I don't know if it's going to be something I do often, or learn to do with any efficiency, but I've been enjoying this. I now understand the work that Twisted Monk puts into his stock, and I've heard his stuff is absolutely amazing. 

By the way, check out my bitchin' sailor's whipping:

It looks so much better than the electrical tape I did have on the ends of all my rope before. Oh, and the blurry black thing? Not the monster from Lost. That's a cat trying to get his catfoot into frame while mommy's shooting pictures.


There's something about making your own tools. You're putting your own time and sweat into it, and you're putting something of yourself into it. There's a connection there. My rope floggers aren't the prettiest critters, but I know the feel of them. The vampire glove I made (which I gifted to DB) was downright ugly...but it got the job done, and I knew it. I urge everyone to make at least one toy for your bag. ;) See if you don't enjoy it.

Tomorrow: Pervertibles!!

Sunday, October 5, 2008

Impromptu Playparty! (part one)

The playparty I went to in August was put on by a group in a city a few hours away from where I live. One of the young men that was there (we'll call him DB) that evening came down to visit SC and FM, and it was decided that there would be an impromptu play night. 

There's a gentleman here in town that has a wonderful dungeon setup in his home, and he graciously allowed us use of it.  When we got there, there were three male subs, SC, and me.  I was a little apprehensive, because I'd only played in public once before, and I have so far been a bit of a lightweight when topping (publicly or privately). I've been mildly worried that I wasn't cut out for it...

Well, I'm no longer worried. I think I held my own relatively well. *grin* I used some of my own toys and some of SC's as well, starting with my homemade vampire glove...this seems to be a great starting toy. It sensitized the hell out of DB's skin, which made everything else ever so much fun.  Between SC and myself, DB got topped for about four hours. The boy's a tank. He got flogged, whipped (I got to use a dragon's tongue for the first time), scratched, bitten, clamped (the metal clips from the dollar store run got some use), caned, and spanked...and had no complaints. 

Remember my blog post about the first play party, and how I said I really wanted an evil stick? Well, I got to use one, and I reaaally want one now.  Other toys I saw that I lust after: stocks, a bondage chair with metal shackles, and a paddle with the word 'slut' written in reverse on the face. Hit somebody just right, and the word imprints itself on the body part whacked. More about that on HNT. ;)

I also got to play with my newfound rope addiction, making cuffs and a body harness for FM, who kept laughing and saying it was scary how fast I was picking things up. CK got there a little later, but wasn't really in the right headspace to actually play.  I think he still had fun watching for the rest of the evening after we shackled him into the chair. ;)

On a silly note, while DB was shackled and I was beating the hell out of him, I leaned over his shoulder, bit him, and said "Cake or death?".  He started laughing and responded properly: "Cake, please!"  Me: "Well, we're out of cake!" Him: "So my choice is 'or death'?". You have to love an Eddie Izzard fan, and throughout the evening the references kept coming. *grin*


For your visual pleasure, an ass ravaged by the evil stick (posted with DB's permission): 

And yeah, the evil stick stings...a lot. More about that on HNT as well. ;)

The night was great fun. Hopefully there'll be more fun in the future. 

BDSM checklist: brought to you by the letter D.

And now for the second installment of the Erotic Bohemian's BDSM checklist meme.

From the list below, select the activities you have partaken in and feel comfortable sharing your experiences on. In your blog, tell about:
An activity (or activities) that was a fun experience for you. What did you enjoy or what was an especially pleasurable activity? If you've never attempted any on the list, which do you think you'd enjoy if you had to choose one and why?
What, if any, of the activities below pushes a limit for you? Have you attempted it?
What, if any, of the below items was a good learning experience for you?

And here are the "D's"....
Daily Diary/Reporting

For introspective purposes, it's not a bad plan. I tend to do my introspection on my blog, however, though it may not be daily.  As for assigning this for someone else...it would really depend on the person. 


Daily mantra

For me, I don't know how effective this  would actually be.  A daily mantra seems like it would be a very personal thing to me, rather than something assigned.


Diet Control

I'm more one for a top/bottom dynamic than a D/s one in my personal world; for a D/s couple this would be an interesting way to help cement that power exhange. 


Diapers 

Not my thing, really. We discussed the age play thing in the first part of the meme.


Dildo (For Female Pleasure)

Ohyeah. I keep seeing new and interesting shapes I want. I'm becoming a sex toy snob, I think...


Dildo (For Male Pleasure)

I haven't yet been intimate with a male that was willing to experiment with that sort of experience...I do have to admit the idea is intriguing.


Domestic Service

For a short amount of time, this would be a pleasant diversion (speaking from the Domme side of the equation).  On the sub side of things, it's not something I've really considered. Depending on the dynamic with the person, I might consider it for a short period just for the experience. 

The Ds turned out to be a short section, but there it is. More later, when the Es are posted. ;)